Don’t Fence Me In

After the fractured fairy-tale weekend, the “boys” gated the road leading up to our home. It was bitter sweet. I love the look. It reminds me of Texas where everyone gates their roads, and I love Texas. However, it represents a new era in our lives. My dear neighbors (I only see some of these lovely people every 2 or 3 months) can no longer simply stop by for a visit. They must first phone us so that we can open the gate. So much for spontaneity.

So . . . do good fences, or gates for that matter, make good neighbors? I think not. Good neighbors are gifts, with or without the fences and gates.

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Mending Wall

Something there is that doesn’t love a wall,
That sends the frozen-ground-swell under it,
And spills the upper boulders in the sun,
And makes gaps even two can pass abreast.
The work of hunters is another thing:
I have come after them and made repair
Where they have left not one stone on a stone,
But they would have the rabbit out of hiding,
To please the yelping dogs. The gaps I mean,
No one has seen them made or heard them made,
But at spring mending-time we find them there.
I let my neighbor know beyond the hill;
And on a day we meet to walk the line
And set the wall between us once again.
We keep the wall between us as we go.
To each the boulders that have fallen to each.
And some are loaves and some so nearly balls
We have to use a spell to make them balance:
‘Stay where you are until our backs are turned!’
We wear our fingers rough with handling them.
Oh, just another kind of out-door game,
One on a side. It comes to little more:
There where it is we do not need the wall:
He is all pine and I am apple orchard.
My apple trees will never get across
And eat the cones under his pines, I tell him.
He only says, ‘Good fences make good neighbors’.
Spring is the mischief in me, and I wonder
If I could put a notion in his head:
‘Why do they make good neighbors? Isn’t it
Where there are cows?
But here there are no cows.
Before I built a wall I’d ask to know
What I was walling in or walling out,
And to whom I was like to give offence.
Something there is that doesn’t love a wall,
That wants it down.’ I could say ‘Elves’ to him,
But it’s not elves exactly, and I’d rather
He said it for himself. I see him there
Bringing a stone grasped firmly by the top
In each hand, like an old-stone savage armed.
He moves in darkness as it seems to me~
Not of woods only and the shade of trees.
He will not go behind his father’s saying,
And he likes having thought of it so well
He says again, “Good fences make good neighbors.”

- Robert Frost

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  1. The Roost says:

    Sometimes you just have to have that protection. Put a wreath on it and it will look friendly ;)

  2. momofnine says:

    Yes, you are right. . . a wreath is just the ticket. Thanks!

  3. Mrs. Parunak says:

    I am a bit wistful, thinking of your new era. We still have neighbors who don’t lock their doors…but we’ve also had a car in the neighborhood broken into. It’s just a reminder of this fallen world we live in, I suppose. Nice to know we won’t need gated roads in Heaven.

  4. Ms.Tee says:

    I agree with Jules – a wreath would warm it up! :)

  5. O.M. says:

    Sorry it has come to that–fences. All I can say is this. When we were living overseas in Panama, all of the windows needed bars across them. Can you imagine not being able to look out your clear windows? That is what happens to a country that has a weak government. Chew on that for a while. So, aren’t you glad you only need a fence and gate? Not a rebuke, but I’m just saying..

    The talk went well. Because there was a lot of questions and answers and that type of format, it wasn’t like I could report much of it on the blog. Oh well..

    Blessings.